Know Who You Are

"Why is it that I am continually trying to justify myself, my beliefs and what I have achieved" the Young man asked.

"That is very simple" replied the old man "It is because you do not know who you are. What you are doing is because you do not who you are, you are then trying to get a picture of what you are through external manifestations. What people think of you, your possesions your acheivements. Unfortunatley the more you try to prove yourself of justify your actions the more wrapped up in the result or outcome you become. This also means that your sense of self worth is also tied to the outcome of any action.

People will always perceive you from thier own perspective anyway so ultimatley what their feelings are towards you will never be a true reflection of who you are. Because of this your sense self worth will be a continual changing up and down, like the surface of the ocean never being still and centered.

Once you start to recognise this and cease to justify yourself all the time you then also start to do the things that you have always wanted to do and not what others expect of you. Life then begins to open up as the censorship you place on you actions dies and you start to grow.

Honestly how can you know yourself if you are continually seeking approval, Knowing yourself is the greatest gift that god has given to man, because once you know yourself you then understand all others and can see the wonderfull creation that exists not only within but without as well for it is the same."

The Young man thought about this and recognised in his life that all he had ever done was seek approval, never stopping and saying enough becuse enough had never and will never be enough.

Always

Peter Dolding

20 rules to live your life by

1. Remember that the greater the love and magnificent the achievement the greater risk.
2. Always judge your success not by what you have acheived but by what you had to give up in order to get it.
3. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
4. When you fail, always look at what you have learnt this is the true pathway to success
5. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, do not stop just take immediate steps to correct it.
6. Welcome and persue change, but don’t let go of your values.
7. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
8. Never let a little dispute destroy a great relationship.
9. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
10. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
11. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
12. Follow the three R’s:
- Respect for self,
- Respect for others and
- Responsibility for all your actions.
13. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
14. Spend some time alone every day.
15. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
16. Share your knowledge. It is a way to achieve immortality.
17. Be gentle with the earth.
18. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
19. If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.
20. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.

Peter Dolding